4 Signs You are not Likeable at Work

Being likeable or agreeable is a key component to your success in the workplace. And it all starts with your attitude, controlled by no other than YOU. If you’re a Debbie downer or negative ninja that clears the room like a stink bomb, this one is for you. If two or more of these signs apply to you, it’s time for self-reflection and self-correction by applying these solutions.

1. No one greets you when you come in. You walk into the building and barely make eye contact with anyone or people quickly look away. They are holding their breath and waiting for you to pass by because your negative energy stinks. Next time, greet someone with a smile and say hello. If the response is awkward, it’s okay. Give people a chance to adjust to the new you and try again tomorrow.

2. You don't have a lunch buddy. Lunch time is a great occasion to build relationships with your co-workers. If you’re in isolation during lunch, it’s time for a change. Politely ask to join a group that’s already at a table and have some small talk. Ask your co-workers what they are having for lunch; this may lead to an invitation. Or send out an email to your team letting them know where you’re going for lunch and offer to pick up orders.  

3. You've been fired or in fear of being fired more than a few times in your career. Do you think you would be the first person on the chopping block or cringe when it’s time for your evaluation? Do you come in with an attitude right at 9 AM wishing it was 5 PM? More than likely, it shows and reflection on you is not pretty. It’s time to reflect. You can change your job or you can change your attitude towards your job.

4. You find it difficult to come up with job references. Some people like being the big bad wolf, but I’m sure they feel sheepish when they are filling out their job application and struggle to find a person to say something nice about them. All that huffing and puffing blew everybody away. Foster positive relationships before you need them. 

If you think being likeable is about being a pushover or brown noser, then you got it twisted my friend. It’s about making a choice about your attitude daily, despite your environment and demonstrating your level of emotional intelligence in the workplace and beyond. Your attitude greatly impacts your quality of life, so choose wisely. 

Moving You Forward,

Cathy Francois
Career Coach
Founder of Rezume Forward
http://about.me/cathy.francois

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Go From Fired to Hired: Reflect, Learn, Take Action

So let’s get straight to point, no chaser; you’re on the rocks and you feel the burn; you got fired. I’m not referring to those who got laid off due to company restructuring or someone who blatantly assisted with his own dismissal, although you can stay tuned if this applies to you. I’m specifically referring to those who got the proverbial pink slip, the ax, the boot; simply because you were not a good fit for the position you were hired for. Perhaps you meant well, but just weren't cutting it. Getting fired may have left you feeling defeated, embarrassed, sadden or downright mad. Allow yourself a brief moment to grieve, then pick up the pieces, reflect, learn and take action.

Reflect. Guess what, it happened to me some moons ago, so you’re not alone. I was working in a sales position for a major multimedia company and was approached by a much smaller company looking to expand their magazine franchise in the United States. I was impressed. I wasn't even looking for a position at the time and they wanted me to work for them. But hindsight tells me that they interested in my connections and I was reeled in with an offer for higher pay. The informal interview went well and I even made a sale on my first day. Unfortunately, that was my first and only sale and 2 months later I was on the job market.

Learn. Failure teaches us a hard lesson, so take heed unless you want to do a retake. I learned that I really didn't understand what I was getting myself into. Being young, naïve, and overly optimistic I didn't realize how much tougher sales can be when working with a new brand versus an established brand. And essentially, I was hired to do hardcore grassroots direct marketing; not what I anticipated. Remember an interview goes two ways, so while you prepare for potential questions, be sure to prepare questions to ask. Do your due diligence and research as much as you can about the company and the position.

Take Action. Begin making preparations for your next step. Be prepared to answer the question on why you separated with the company. Be honest without giving too many details. Explain that the position or the company was not a good fit, perhaps what you've learned and transition to what you want and how it aligns with the company’s needs. It could sound something like, “I quickly found out that phone sales wasn't a good fit for me and that I enjoy face-to-face sales, which is what attracted me to this retail sales position.” Notice by the end of the statement you just refocused the conversation and plugged in why you’re a good fit. (I’m not a bad salesperson after all…wink.)

And you’re not so bad yourself. Good people get fired all the time, so don’t let the experience kill your confidence. Take the lesson for what is and move forward by taking action and go from fired to hired!

Moving You Forward,


Cathy Francois
Career Coach
Founder of Rezume Forward

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